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[Crazy Obessed Lovesick Rocker Chick]

Originally Posted by ohhaipostsecret

I wanted to post this here to remain annonymous!
I'm having SO much trouble. Basically I was going out with this girl for about 5 months, it was nothing to serious, It was just laid-back dating. So anyway, early December came and I decided to dump her, as she treated me badly and would always go in a mood with me if I spoke to my friends. And it's just blown up! She's started taking drugs, she's an alchoholic and she self harms...she comes into school acting all depressed when she goes to councelling. But outside school she sending me nasty texts and ringing me and being intimidating towards me...and I am SICK of it. She's os nasty and it's really bringing me down, I just can't relax as everyday I'm expecting some form of a nasty text or phonecall. I HAVE spoke to a person in school I can trust, all she said was "This girl needs help, she's very depressed so take it easy on her"! This outraged me, as I am doing absoloutley nothing wrong.What annoys me is, she's taking all these drugs and stuff and nobody takes that into account! Please help me, I'm so upset and my confidence and self-esteem is so low at the moment, and just dont beleive in myself anymore. This goes to prove...it's not always the guy who's the bad one in the releationship...this girl is a phsyco!

First of all change your number so she won't be able to call or text you aymore. And then just try to get away from her, I guess? Because it won't get any better, it'll only get worse and she'll just keep bringing you down and making you miserable.

[hithereimvoldemort]

What happened to your girlfriend is not anywhere NEAR your fault, and the best thing to do is to just step away and let her get help. The girl obviously has some very, very deep rooted issues, and ANYTHING could have triggered them to come to the surface and cause her to basically go off the deep end. This is NOT your fault. She could have had a bad day at school, gotten yelled at by her parents, lost a friend, ANYTHING. Just because you were the so called trigger does NOT mean you should take ANY blame. Don't even say hi to her. I know you guys went out, but it obviously upset her when you two broke up, causing all of her other issues to come flooding to the surface. If you try to get involved, but you don't like her, it's going to cause her unthought of amounts of stress, and it will eat away at her. She is mentally unstable, and therefore is not in any state to deal with such a thing. What she needs now is help, and only help, with nothing else interfering. Once you are SURE she is 10% ok, if you REALLY want to you can try to go out with her again. But if you're truly not interested, just remove yourself from her life completely. I know it sounds harsh, but it really is what's best for her. Right now she needs to get everything else straightened out.

[Lewymocha Original]

I just think she is bitter and embarrased because she thought you were desperate for her. That's why she treated you like crap.

Now that you have stood up to her, she is bitter and embarrased and is taking her own back. It's not your fault. Ring her up and talk to her about it. If she is nasty about it all, threaten to call the guards. If it continues, do call the guards. It is harrasement and should NOT be tolerated.

You should NOT have to change your number for her. If it does continue after this, you will have to change your number and try ignore her. Do NOT answer her calls and DON'T read her texts.

That is my opinion on the situation. You have the right to peace. She is violating law.

call your telephone provider.. they can block her number.. its not your fault that girl is just to strange

[ohhaipostsecret]

This is the same guy with the nasty Ex-Girlfriend -
Thank you EVERYBODY for your advice. I've took it all into account, I've stopped answering her calls and reading her texts and she's really cutting back on it. We're off school for 2 weeks at the moment, so this will give me time to relax and just not talk to her, at all! I hope this gives out the right message, don't go out with somebody you do not know very well. When I first met her she was amazing, so lovely and pretty, she seemed perfect...But she just turned out to be like the rest. Make sure you know somebody pretty well before dating them, this girl is a nightmare lol! So yeah, Thanks for everything, its really helping and I don't feel as down as I did

no problem... never trust girls haha theyre strange just kidding. you just got the wrong girl, just get over it and find a new one someday

[GatorBait]

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This past weekend has been the most confusing of my life!!!

^why??

[GatorBait]

LONGGGG Story!!!! If yall want I will post it.

depends on how long, im curious though haha

[GatorBait]

Sorry it took so long to respond, I had a lot going on. But here goes...
Things with la chica appear to be headed downhill FAST.
Where to start? Well basically... I called her Thursday night, and never heard back. Yesterday I came home for the weekend. I told her I would be coming back a week ago, so that way we could hang out, b/c it seemed like we both wanted to. Called her like 5 times last night, but she didn't answer. Finally talked to her late last night, and she said she had been cleaning out her car, which I do believe. Then today I went to see my grandfather, who's not doing too well, and told chica I'd call her when I got home so we could hang out.
Got home around 5, called her, and she was hanging out with other friends and already drunk. Then she yells at me for talking when she was trying to talk with the friends she's with, when I had no idea whether she was talking to me or her.

Ended up saying screw it and going out with a friend from high school. She calls me while I'm out with him, and asks Where I am, so I tell her. Instead of saying something like "That's good!" she says "Why aren't you home?" After thinking about that, I called her back and asked if she wanted me to be home, meaning that I would go home if she was going to come over, and she yells at me again, this time for "always doing what she says."
I am seriously SICK of the way she's treating me. She acts like she can do whatever she wants, but I'm not allowed to do anything without her knowing. And this is all while we're JUST friends.

All I know is that I'm over her, as far as a real relationship goes.

Still, I wanna be friends with her, but I'm scared that's not gonna happen, either, and I dunno how I'm gonna react to that. I mean, I was pretty much sprung on her just a few days ago, so this is a huge turnaround from that.


But now I'm thinking maybe I'm NOT over her, b/c she just called me at 2:30 in the freaking morning! We talked for like 4 minutes, and then another 10 minutes just now, before she went to bed. And well, if somebody calls you that late, they obviously care, right??!!!! Plus she seemed upset at me for telling her off in a comment I left her on myspace, so obviously she cares. She also said, "You seem different. I don't like it." But then when I asked why, she couldn't answer, but I think I've figured it out. I think that, with what I said in my comment, it seemed like I didn't like her anymore, which I honestly thought maybe I didn't, when in all honesty, I do still like her!
So I dunno what to do. I guess I am going to try to repair things and get back to where we were the other night!