Seriously. Do we really need all those pointless gimmicky heavy toolbars? Image heaviness? Whatever it is your packing in that coding that is causing this ridiculous lag? This is honestly the slowest website I have ever encountered. You really have to get your priorities right, you are sacrificing way too much precious loading time for the sake of pointless shit no one cares about. Not only the loading time, people like looking at clean layouts, not cluttered busy messes.
I only go on bandaids on my mobile because it is nice and stripped back on the mobile version, and it just became too frustrating using it on a computer, which says something about the sheer scale of the lag and unusability of the site because I hate typing lengthy rants through awkward phone keyboards lol. Using the non mobile version of the site just isn't an option. It's just a big dark tunnel of jerkiness and loading bars and misery. Fair enough, I have an old computer, but this is the only site that can cause Windows to crash.
A site is supposed to provide a clean, smooth user experience, so that everything is pretty much invisible to the user other than the content. I don't know how you could have gotten that number one priority so wrong so that instead of being invisible, the bulky design of the site smacks you in the face and makes sure it is the first thing you notice, but my god you did. !_!