Self-help please :(

[Sally90]

Im afraid it might take me sometime to say that! But i'll say I appreciate everything I have and its a gift that I shouldnt feel bad about

Oh come'on it's successful because of you!
You do realise that dont you :P?

[wristband]

aww, actually cus i've been spamming here.

anytime if you feel empty again, you can always approach anyone of us alright? dont feel shy
and remember to do the laughing exercise every night before bed, its said that u'll live longer.

[Captain Barbossa]

and u became crazier too

[wristband]

thats true , but it makes u stress free before bed time.

[how does it feel]

As human beings, it is so easy to look in the mirror and pick out all of our bad points right? But maybe, just look in the mirror and look at all the good things about yourself I'm sure there is so many. Also, it's not always about appearance, you seem like a really nice person to, when you said you're very compassionate and stuff If you still feel down about yourself, do something that you know will make you feel happy and flush any negative thoughts out of your head, shopping/watching a good movie etc etc theres just so many Basically what I'm saying is, life is a beautiful thing, enjoy it while your here and don'think about the bad points, because normally, the good things about life ALWAYS outway the bad ones. You're perfect the way you are Hope I've helped.

[Hunter]

I kinda feel the way you feel except I'm not really social so I could never be a Prom king or anything. But I can tell that you are beautiful on the inside because I can tell that since you have posted this thread, you really care for yourself and that is important. It's also important to know that your friends, and your FAMILY love you very much. I'm not sure if your religious and if not, I'm not about to shove religion down your throat but from my beliefs, God loves you very much too and you can always talk to him. If your not into that kind of thing, you always have your friends, and family to talk to. You can talk to us, because we are your friends now. I can tell that you are a star so be proud of what you do. You seem to have a great personality and like Lewis said, you'll fit in the Bandaids community greatly. Keep being a star. You are incredible! Don't let your head down. Take ownership and say your name out loud and proud. You can do it. You are great!

[Im A Touch Overrated]

And then also, after laughing in the mirror,....

Sing yourself a song.
Oh Lord its hard to be humble perhaps.

[O Captain My Captain]

Congratulations. You are officially a human being. Welcome to Life.

[Sally90]

Thank you "how does it feel" and hunter you really did help , each one of you helped! Its hard to flush down negative thoughts, but just the feeling that you people care is enough to make me happy seriously.. I mean I dont know.. people always look on the outside and appearance, I dont give a damn about my appearance, I want them to know that im a good person on the inside.. but I dont know like i feel that my school-mates ( I still see them in college ) think im faking it because im social and popular and i was the prom queen and stuff like that(I dont mean to brag really, im sorry if im coming across that way), just because you're pretty and social doesnt mean that you're mean/selfish..I dont know why people think this way,no one has told me anything like criticized me but I feel it maybe because im insecure and sometimes I can REALLY be insecure, my best friend told me they're just jealous of me but my insecurities make me think that there's nothing to be jealous of! I dont know maaaaaaaan im such a drama queen lately! LOL im so sorry.. Thank you so much for helping and thank you for finally proving my point that there are people who care about who I am rather than my looks and what music I listen to :S.. Im so happy and glad that there are people like you thank you so much..

[Im A Touch Overrated]

Lol. Funny thing is.
I have tons of confidence, and totally love myself, and am not in the slightest bit insecure.
And I have no reason to be that way at all . lol

Where as you, prom queen, I would guess ur very pretty, so you have a reason to have confidence.

[wristband]

^ you have a reason to be, you're undenialbly beautiful too (i think i spelt wrong)

Is it because the friends around you, because of jealousy, spreads horrible things bout you like you're "pretending" to be nice and good and stuff like that? And also guys approach you not because they like who u are inside but how you look outside? is that why u're feeling insucure?
I have a friend like that too, shes seriously the hottest person i've ever seen, ( no! im not a lesbian ), and shes kinda like you, thinking that every guy who approaches her cause of looks, thats why shes never had a boyfriend, because she doesnt want a superficial relationship.
But the one thing that makes her different from you, she has confidence and high self esteem. And honestly, I respect her for that, even as a best friend, im not even jealous of her. (only sometimes when my crush looks at her hee.)

So yupp! Since you know who you really are deep inside, dont care about what the others think about you. All you need is CONFIDENCE. even if you're the ugliest person on earth, its confidence in you that makes people respect you. And thats why i totally respect my friend. and thats why i respect sinead too, and thats why i respect MYSELF! because I ROCKKKK muahahha
So make me respect you too!

[xevista]

Seems like a pretty normal teenage problem stuff I think you just lack something and that's the self-esteem process
Having low self-esteem is something everyone faces at some point in their lives. Low self-esteem prevents us from being who we want to be or becoming what we want to become. There are many things that can contribute to having low self-esteem. We must determine what makes us have a poor self-perception of ourselves in order to improve our self-esteem.

After all self-esteem is how we feel or think about ourselves. If we can learn to strengthen the best qualities we have in ourselves, negative qualities will diminish and the positive qualities will grow. When we feel good about ourselves, being mad or angry, jealous, worried, depressed, or frightened becomes very difficult.

We are responsible for our own feelings and emotions. Sometimes the best way to build up your own self-esteem is to help others. This not only will help them but also help you to feel better about yourself.

Getting to know yourself better will help you to improve your self-esteem. Ask friends how they see you. What qualities do they see that maybe you don't. When we think of ourselves as having low self-esteem, others think of us as having high self-esteem.

Learn to laugh at yourself because no one is perfect not even you. Don't let your weaknesses become roadblocks in your life. Instead let them become strengths so that you can help others overcome the same challenges.

Love yourself because no one else can love you better than you. How well you can love yourself will determine how well you can love others. Learn to appreciate who you are and where you've come from. Give yourself the respect you deserve. There is no one else in the world like you, that alone should make you feel special.

Change the way you have always done things. Sometimes we can get in a rut and our lives become boring and dull. Change can be a positive.

Learn a new skill or craft. Learning new things can give us self-confidence and increase self esteem. Life is full of adventure, so what are you waiting for.
When given a compliment or praise learn to accept it gracefully and move on. Don't stop to explain what should have happened or what you meant to do instead. Simply say thank you with a smile or handshake and move on.

Take value in yourself because you are worth it. Stop thinking that you aren't worthy because you are. Believe in yourself your talents and abilities so that your life will be productive and profitable. You are worthy of greatness so take value in yourself.

Take a look in the mirror and see who you want to be not who someone else wants you to be. Live your life for you not for someone else. Whatever negative thoughts you have about yourself will dominate your life. So if you want to be a person who is positive you must think positive. If you want to be successful you must think success. If you don't want low self-esteem you must pick it up.

If you feel that therapy has helped you to improve your thinking about yourself and others close to you, by all means you must use whatever methods work. Everyone deserves the best for themselves. Don't ever second guess what you feel in your heart to be right for you. It is a gift from God to have a heart that can be touched and felt with emotion to make decisions that are right.